Beautiful advice from a divorced man after 16 years of marriage

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Miraculous Journey

In light of this new chapter of life I’m starting, I want to kick it off with this 21-Day Meditation Challenge I signed up for and forgot about..per usual. I very absentmindedly erased every email I had gotten in reference to it, subconsciously marking it as spam until I actually opened one. When I read it, it just spoke to me – exactly what I needed to hear right then. So as I dug through countless “Trash” e-mails I decided I wanted to share this challenge with anyone else too. Maybe someone else will feel inspired also. Here’s to a new soul-venture!

The way is not in the sky. The way is in the heart. -Buddha

Welcome to our 21-Day Meditation Challenge, Miraculous Relationships! We are delighted and honored that you are joining us on this journey of the heart.

Miracles happen every day, and not just in remote villages or holy sites across the globe, but right here, in our own lives. If our minds are preoccupied or we’re too busy or rushed, we may not notice the miracles coming into our life, yet they are always there, like gifts waiting to be opened. Over the course of this meditation challenge, we will learn how to live each day connected to the peace of present-moment awareness. In this expanded state of awareness, we will be able to tune into the presence of miracles and see with the eyes of love.

Our centering thought for today is:

Today I am open to the presence of miracles.

MINDFUL MOMENT

Set one intention for your journey toward miraculous relationships. As if carefully cultivating a seed to sprout, take time each day to remember and connect with this special intention. Visualize it as a precious jewel resting in your heart. Gently shower it with love and light and, with your mind’s eye, watch it open and expand. As you travel through these next 21 days, give yourself permission to open your mind, and your heart, to all possibilities. Embrace the vision of your true self in supportive, meaningful relationships of all kinds.

I’ll post my thoughts/reaction later today or tomorrow.

Day 2: Wish you were here…

After reading a post on Elite Daily (http://elitedaily.com/life/be-your-own-best-friend-the-cure-for-loneliness/) I discovered that becoming my own best friend is something I only recently started doing. Everyone claims that they know themselves better than anything, but do we really? I mean does everyone really understand themselves, who they’re becoming and how they got there, or is everyone pretending just so they don’t seem like the odd ones out? It took me many a tear and cut and scrape to really understand who I was on more of a deeper level than the latest music I was into, or clothing, other interests etc etc. It wasn’t until I really grew into my being that I learned why I started to think certain ways and began accepting more of myself and what made me me and not accepting things I wasn’t comfortable with. That’s not to say I haven’t relished in uncomfortability, because at times I love it. I learn something new about myself every time I am in an uncomfortable situation. I mean the turning things away that wouldn’t better me or myself type of unaccepting. It wasn’t until I was about 19 that I even had the confidence to do so. I’ve always sort of left people alone in their being and accepted them for what they were and expected that in return, however, I didn’t always know how to accept myself. I wasn’t comfortable being alone, I loathed it, and maybe that was the extroverted side of me but I wanted to be around people all the time. I did enjoy having time to myself at the same time, even if it was just not speaking while me and another watched tv and sat on the couch, in fact, that was the type of “alone” time I preferred. I’m not sure how I became that way or why it happened it just was. I’ve never needed a lot of time to be alone but as I get older I find that I enjoy myself more and more. This is strange yet comforting at the same time and it’s something I am really finding to be a challenge with my roommate being in Europe for a month and my boyfriend, who I speak to/see every day, being gone for 3+ weeks at the same time. (Coming down the home stretch though, only 8 more days!) He claims I have separation anxiety while I claim I don’t even know the meaning of the word. Who knows whether I do or I don’t nor do I care, bottom line is I think I’m doing okay. While I do miss him very much, I actually am enjoying myself and am feeling okay being alone for probably the first time, ever. I’m finding things to do that I enjoy that I never experienced or just forgot about. I’m exploring things and feelings within myself which is extremely important for growth…and look at that, even this little project for myself came out of my loneliness….*cue 11 year-old self yelling at the top of my lungs* it’s killing me, and I, I must confess I still believe-STILL BELIEVE! Okay, okay I’m sorry I had to flashback to my Britney Spears days, I just couldn’t help myself. Anyways, I have some things planned for myself that will hopefully aid in more self-discovery which is definitely underrated and over-proclaimed.

Stay tuned…

Day One

My most fantastic boyfriend and I challenge each other on a daily basis and I came to the realization that since graduating college I hardly challenge myself. I’m always distracting my mind with ways to satisfy him and his attention needs and I often forget about my own. Don’t get me wrong, he does a GREAT job handling me and my craziness, and at times I believe he was made for me, but I feel the job should be shared between us. After all, how can one truly be happy if they never challenge themselves within their ever-changing environments?

I have for a while now been on a self-proclaimed soul searching journey, though its been more self-proclaiming than actual soul searching. I have come to an important place in my life on all platforms and feel that it’s worth exploring on a deeper level than just surface. I’ve done things like this in the past and never recorded any of it or started and not followed through, only to kick myself later. I’m very result oriented and love to see how far I’ve come personally along this journey we all call life.

Life. I often think about the meaning of the word and it’s derivitives but never have I found my own definition, only compilations of things and people around me that which I center myself within. But, is that really life?

I’m on a mission to find out and am creating a spiritual journey, kickstarting it with 40 days of blogging and fitness (we’ll see how long this part lasts). If you’d like to join me on my journey of further self discovery and adventures, the more the merrier! I’d love the company 🙂